Husband insists taking wife to expensive restaurant despite her protest, gives her silent treatment when she balks at $300 bill in front of server: 'Why is your husband so fragile'

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JR Atkinson • Writer and Editor
Feb 26, 2025 6:00 PM EST

Sticker shock is a real, visceral thing. Say you're perusing clothes in a nice boutique, letting your mind wander imagining wearing them, deciding which items you like and don't like, what would look good on you, etc. And then you make the mistake of looking at the price tag and your fantasies are swiftly and immediately shattered. You realize, "This store is not for me" and it bruises your ego. You almost get angry at their audacity for charging $1100 for a wool scarf. "The world is ridiculous and unfair," you think. And you're right. 

Sticker shock is even more painful when you've already committed to paying for something. Maybe you've decided to buy your friends a round of drinks and you realize martinis don't come cheap. Or maybe you're out to dinner, in for a bit of a splurge, but aren't quite ready for the number that the server slyly puts forth. It has happened to the best of us. 

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  • What matters, though, is how you treat it. If you and your husband, for example, are on different pages about what is appropriate to spend, you might come into conflict. That's what happened in this story when a wife's behavior at dinner caused her husband to give her the silent treatment. Read on for the story and see what you think.

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    AITA for embarrassing my husband at dinner

    So i got a new job and my husband wanted to take me out to dinner to celebrate. I didnt want a fancy dinner and literally said im ok to go to shake shack. He insisted he would take me to a fancy resturant and when i objected he said we cant cancel now. Okay fine so we
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    went and had a nice time and then the bill came to over $300. I didnt realize that the waiter was still right behind me and said "omg its so much". My husband right away felt so embarassed and didnt talk to me the rest of the night. I did apologize because i knew he was upset at me but honestly i didnt see the big deal. Not like they know us or will see us again soon. AITA?
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    Commenters weighed in on whether or not her reaction justified the silent treatment.

    Zoe Zoe ZoeLily 12h ago • My friends worked at fancy restaurants and they used to be horrified at the price. Most of them couldn't afford to eat there. They aren't judging you - they're either silently agreeing or trying not to laugh at your EXTREMELY REASONABLE REACTION. You're fine.
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    (I also completely understand your husband being mortified, fair enough... but come on- you didn't know they were there, you wanted shake shack, and sticker shock is visceral. The silent treatment is a bit much.)
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    Quiet Moon2191 · 11h ago Also why does the husband even care about the opinion of someone he will never see again?
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    • weddingmoth 12h ago Like the waiter gives a f your finances. NTA. I think the average American would think $300 for dinner was a lot (but don't quote me idk).
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    Unusual-Hippo-14... • 12h ago right before I quit my serving job at an upscale place I told one of my tables that no I couldn't truly recommend my favorite out of the three they were considering because I could not afford to eat there. it felt amazing. you're good. and your husband was being snobby.
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    SlipperyNinja77 • 11h ago Embarrassing him to who besides himself? He could've said "Yea, but you're worth it." And moved on. Why a grown ass man would give his own wife the silent treatment on a celebratory night for her, baffles me. You're an adult dude act like one. NTA at all. Mr. Sensitive needs to worry about himself and his wife and no one else.
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    . ButltSaysOnline 12h ago NTA. I'd been more concerned about your husband, disregarding your wishes for your own celebration and then being concerned about the opinion of a stranger who you will never see again.
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    One-Essay-129 . 12h ago NTA. You said you didn't want to go somewhere fancy, and he ignored you... you comment on the bill, that's basically on him lol
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    Ok-Calligrapher13... I fail to see what was • 12h ago embarrassing. Husband has issues.
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    formallyhappygolu... 12h ago NTA. Your husband shouldn't be embarrassed, that's ridiculous of him. I would have been too busy rolling my eyes to apologize if I were you.
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    • InfamousCup7097 12h ago Doesn't feel like it was much of a celebration for you if you can't pick the place, make a comment at dinner, and are made to feel bad by him for being a person. Maybe open a seperate bank account for some of that new job money just in case you wakeup soon to the realization of the marriage you're in and need to start over.
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    Ok_Coconut1482 • 12h ago How are some waiter's feelings - a stranger who probably didn't give a single f anyway how is that - person more important than YOUR feelings? NTA but your husband sure is
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    Kitchen-Ant-1265 · 12h ago Why is your husband so fragile?
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    DixOut-4-Harambe 11h ago • So YOU got a new job, and declined a fancy dinner and was OK with something more basic, but he insisted and made it about him. Then you exclaim shock while the waiter is behind you - and he gives you the silent treatment because, again, it's all about him?
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    What other things are blown out of proportion because he's emotional and gets hysterical?
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    chai-candle 11h ago your husband refusing to listen to you about how you didn't want to do to a fancy dinner is more of an issue here. he forced you to do something you weren't comfortable with and then got mad at you expressing discomfort.
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    Due_Help_1639 • 11h ago For a different perspective, I don't think it's that you embarrassed your husband by saying that, I think it's that he wanted to do something over the top for you and you complained every step of the way from saying you'd rather have Shake Shack to the getting the bill. Maybe he just had enough and shut down.
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    DinaFelice 11h ago he wanted to do something over the top for you No, he didn't. I mean, maybe originally, that was his intention, but the minute OP objected to the plan, it ceased to be for OP.
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    At that point, I'd have much more respect for the husband if he'd just admitted, "Listen, I've been dying to go to this restaurant, but I know it is expensive. Celebrating your promotion seemed like the perfect opportunity, but I get it if it's not your preference for how you want to celebrate. How about this: let's keep the reservation as a 'just because' dinner and next weekend, we celebrate you at Shake Shack (or however you would prefer)?"
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    . Guilty-Study765 11h ago Anyone who resorts to the silent treatment is incredibly immature. I automatically discount their opinions
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    Fresh-Caterpillar6... • 12h ago Well, I understand where he's coming from, I don't think he was embarrassed but upset, he wanted to do something. really special for you. Of course you're NTA but he wanted you to react differently I guess
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